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1 Corinthians 13:1-13
Love God...Love People
Jesus said…
Matthew 22:37-39 (37)'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' (38) This is the first and greatest commandment. (39) And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbour as yourself.'
Earth is our practice run for what we will be doing in eternity, which is spending time loving God and loving others.
In
Galatians 5:6 it shows us that God values a faith which expresses itself in love -
“For when we place our faith in Christ Jesus, it makes no difference to God whether we are circumcised or not circumcised. What is important is faith expressing itself in love.”
We should have a kind of faith that compels us to love people.
Love is a command
Said already (Love the Lord your God…love your neighbour)
Love is doing what God has commanded. Love is not just a feeling, it is much more. Feelings cannot be commanded. We should not just led by our emotions.
Love is a choice
1 Corinthians 14:1 –
Follow the way of love and eagerly desire spiritual gifts, especially the gift of prophecy
We should ‘pursue’ love, ‘go after’ it.
Sometimes we give people what they deserve, loving someone is about giving what they need - that is called grace.
Love is a conduct
1 John 3:18 –
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truthIt is not just words but also in deed.
Love is a commitment
1 John 4:16 –
And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him
How do we love people practically?
Get to understand how God loves you.
Memorise scripture about what God says about love.
Start your day with reminder of love. Set the tone of the day. What matters most to God is love.
Practice acting in unselfish ways. Selfishness is the scourge of humankind.
Love is a muscle. Initially it’s hard to love but it gets developed over time. You need to exercise it everyday.
We cannot grow in love on our own. You need to be in the midst of people to grow in love.
From 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 – Six aspects of LOVE.
1. Love is Kind
In 1 Corinthians 13:4 it says love is kind and that kindness is expressed in action.
Four key things we can learn about showing kindness from the Parable of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10.
Begins with our Eyes
We need to start seeing the needs of people around us.
In Luke 10:33 is says When he ‘saw’ him. It begins with our eyes, the way you see the world, the way we are sensitive to the needs of our world. We need to expand our vision and be more observant of the needs around us, the hurting and wounded.
Obstacle to kindness is ‘busyness’ - hurry is the death of kindness. The more we slow down in life, the more sensitive we will be. Ask God to give you spiritual radar, to open the eyes of your heart. Kindness can be learnt, not just born with it.
Use our Ears - Listening is a form of kindness.
We need to sympathise with the other person’s pain. To feel the other person’s emotions, we have to care. In verse 33 it says, “he took pity”. We do this by using our ears and listening to the other person’s pain. The secret to genuine sympathy is being there for the other person.
2 Corinthians 1:4 –
He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.
Every problem we go through is a chance for us to learn to be more sympathetic with others’ pain.
Use what we Have
We need to seize the moment to be kind, don’t delay. In verse 34 it says “he stooped down and kneeled down” he came to the man’s level. He used what he had with him ‘wine & oil’.
a) We must be willing to be interrupted, it happens on their schedule, not ours. Love is often inconvenient.
b) We can’t let excuses get in the way “I’ve got my own problems” “I’ve got important businesses to care for.”
c) We must be willing to take risks. Fear keeps us from being kind. Fear makes us unkind. Perfect love casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).
He spent whatever it took
It costs us something to be kind, our privacy, our time, our resources. What did the good Samaritan gain from it? Nothing materialistically, so why should we be kind?
Isaiah 58:10-11 – (10) Feed the hungry and help those in trouble. Then your light will shine out from the darkness, and the darkness around you will be as bright as day. (11) The LORD will guide you continually, watering your life when you are dry and keeping you healthy, too. You will be like a well-watered garden, like an ever-flowing spring
God says, he guarantees he will meet our needs, when we are kind.
3 Ways to show practical kindness:
Proverbs 12:25 - Kind word –
An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up
Proverbs 14:21 - Kind deed -
He who despises his neighbour sins, but blessed is he who is kind to the needy
Proverbs 19:17 - Kind gift –
He who is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will reward him for what he has done
2. Love does not Envy
ENVY is usually the underlying cause of problems in relationships
Envy is a painful awareness of what another possesses and a desire to have it. It is also resenting God’s goodness to others and ignoring what God has done for us.
Five ways to get rid of envy:
Don’t compare yourself with others
Comparing leads to pride or envy. Each person is unique and each path is different according to God’s plan for their life.
Start enjoying God’s grace to others
In Romans 12:15 it says rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep.
Be grateful for what you have
Philippians 4:11 – Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to get along happily whether I have much or little. (Apostle Paul)
Trust God when life seems unfair
Keep focused on God’s plan for your life
3. Love is Humble
In 1 Corinthians 13:4 it says ‘love does not parade itself, is not puffed up’.
What it is not:
• Humility is not shyness
• Humility is not meekness
• Humility is not low esteem
Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.
Four key things to practise humility:
Give preference to others
Make a pre-determined choice of putting others first.
Romans 12:10 -
‘Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honour giving preference to one another.’
We have a choice, to be a person of love is a choice, it’s a decision.
Practise learning from others
Always be open to suggestions and criticisms, heart that is teachable. The day you think you know everything, you stop learning.
Practise admitting when we are wrong
Accept responsibility, take ownership, don’t justify.
Surrender your plans to the Lord
We need to submit to God’s Lordship.
4. Love is being Respectful
1 Corinthians 13:5 “Love does not behave itself rudely”, which means love is being respectful.
Love does not seek its own way, it seeks others. How to show respect:
You stop and you listen
You give your undivided attention to others. This shows that we genuinely care.
Keep your promises
Stay true to what you promised, hold onto what you say, let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’.
Yield ourselves to serve others willingly
2 Corinthians 12:15 (Paul) – So I will very gladly spend for you everything I have and expend myself as well. If I love you more, will you love me less?
5. Love is Patient
In Ephesians 4:26 it says ‘In your anger do not sin’. There is an anger that is not sinful - that you can control. It is righteous indignation. It is different from an anger that is out of control.
How to Break Cycle of Anger and Gain Patience?
Break the pattern of angerIf you keep justifying your behaviour you will keep the habit. You need to confront the problem, if you don’t you will not conquer.
Proverbs 14:29 -
A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.
Proverbs 25:28 –
Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control
Guard your relationships
You need to make a heart commitment that no matter what you are angry about – don’t be angry at the person. Make a commitment to value and guard your relationships.
In Proverbs 15:1 it says ‘a soft answer (gentle response), diffuses anger’. What is a gentle response? It is being humble, even when it isn’t your fault.
Release your worries to God
Psalm 37:8 says worries and anxieties cause people to get easily frustrated and angered.
Philippians 4:6 ‘do not be anxious about anything’.
Change your expectations, but don’t lower your standardsDon’t lower your standard but just lower your expectations of people. Philippians 4:8 encourages us to focus on the positive (on strengths) and not the weaknesses.
6. Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs
The ultimate test of love is the test of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not:
Conditional
It is not based on someone’s response, it is something we do based on faith. If someone hurts us, it’s up to us to take the step to forgive. Forgiveness is unconditional.
Minimising the hurt
It is not minimising the offence and pain. We need to know the difference between being wounded and being wronged. We need to tell the person who has hurt us that we are offended but still offer forgiveness.
Resuming relationship without change
We need to see genuine repentance in the other person and real change of mind and behaviour before we get back to a close relationship again.
Forgetting what happens
God does not forget but chooses not to remember.
My right if it wasn’t me who was hurt
What is Forgiveness?
Relinquish your right to get even
We must surrender the area to the Lord and be able to release – that is real forgiveness. The root of bitterness can very easily spring up. Bitterness poisons you and others. It corrupts the fruit of our lives.
Respond to evil with goodLuke 6:28 “Do good to those who hate you, bless and pray for them.”
You repeat this process as long as necessary
We need to see everything through eyes of grace; following the example of Jesus.