Monday, May 29, 2006

Also...Life's Too Short

...to live on a weak foundation.

Yesterday in church Paul Benger wrapped up a great little series on ‘life’s too short’, this week he touched upon the subject of building our lives on the right foundation.

Matthew 7:24-39

We need stability. A rock bed underneath us. Be safe and feel safe. We need something or someone in our life that gives us stability. Unless there is a foundation in our life that is secure the building comes down.

Live a rock kind of living.

5 rocks to build our lives upon...

1) The Rock called Jesus

Jesus has taken our curse and nailed it to the cross. Paid the price for our lives, so that we can receive everything that God has for us. He is the Rock that our lives are built upon. Who do we trust – what we believe determines what we do in life. Believe that Jesus has done it all. This is the good news of the Gospel. He is the Cornerstone. 1 Peter 2:6As the Scriptures express it, "I am placing a stone in Jerusalem, a chosen cornerstone, and anyone who believes in him will never be disappointed."
He is faithful, Hebrews 13:8Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

2) The Rock called God’s Word

Which report will you believe? God’s word is written about you...what does he say about you? His word is precious...without it what have we got?
His word is our weapon – the sword of the Spirit.
His word is our internal GPS, Psalm 119:105 - Your word is a lamp for my feet and a light for my path.

3) The Rock called Faith

God shows us things before we receive them. Through faith we turn them into reality. Faith ACTS and WAITS, patience and faith. Noah had to BUILD and BELIEVE. Act and Trust.

4) The Rock called Hope

God gives us opportunities to grow, to move forward. His desire is for us to grow, to reach our full potential. The enemy tries to stop this, but we can overcome – stand your ground. Be rock-like.
Philippians 3:12-14 - (12) I don't mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection! But I keep working toward that day when I will finally be all that Christ Jesus saved me for and wants me to be. (13) No, dear brothers and sisters, I am still not all I should be, but I am focusing all my energies on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, (14) I strain to reach the end of the race and receive the prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us up to heaven

5) The Rock called Love

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

The Christian spirit is to love people. To believe the very best of people – not the negative. The way to LIFE is to LOVE people. Don’t excuse HATE in your life. God has a better way to live.
Mark 12:31 – 'Love your neighbour as yourself.' No other commandment is greater than these.

Sunday, May 28, 2006

Come on you Reds!

2-2 (4-3 penalties aet)
My team BARNSLEY got promoted to the Championship yesterday after a tense play-off semi-final against Swansea in Cardiff. It wasn’t very pretty to be honest and it went to penalties which was not good for the nerves....but we did it!

Sunday, May 21, 2006

Life's Too Short

...to live without vision

Paul spoke in church this morning about vision, in particular having God’s vision for your life.

Proverbs 29:18Where there is no revelation (vision) the people cast off restraint

Matthew 4:17 From that time Jesus began preaching saying ‘Repent for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand’

What is reality? Unless we have vision for our lives we live out of control. Jesus brought reality through the Kingdom of God. He introduced a God culture, a God way of living.

The Kingdom of God is not a piece of land, but the hearts of men and women who have learned to live a God culture where God is involved in the detail of my life.

Designer living is living life according to our ‘Designer’.

Living a God culture is about living...

A life with vision
A life with purpose
A life having a healthy self-image
A life being set free from the past
A life having strength in adversity
A life of generosity and giving
A life of happiness, joy and passion

Don’t get comfortable; don’t settle…keeping pressing on towards your goal. Don’t lose your resolve.

7 Keys to embracing a God culture

Change your vision
Change the image of yourself (get God’s image of you)
Change the thoughts and words that surround your life
Change the impact of the past
Change your response to adversity
Change your attitude to giving
Change your purpose to joy for living

Sunday, May 07, 2006

You're Hired

Mark Wilkins spoke in church this morning. It was based on one of my favourite TV programmes at the moment, The Apprentice.

He asked the question, why have the apprentice candidates decided to go on the programme when many of them already have great positions or own their own businesses – because they desire to work alongside Sir Alan Sugar.

“I’d like to be Sir Alan’s apprentice because I like to do the best I can in life and therefore would like to learn from the best [Sir Alan Sugar]” Sharon (one of the candidates)

Jesus should be someone who we aspire to be with, follow, imitate, and learn from, to be a disciple of.

Today, ask yourself 3 questions

Why would you become an apprentice?
Who would you follow?
How do we follow someone?

Why would you become an apprentice?

Realise that you are not the complete article. Have a realisation that a better life is possible.

Luke 5:4-11; Luke 5:27-32

When Jesus called the first disciples, they recognised that Jesus was someone worth following. Peter – he didn’t think he was good enough. Matthew – His friends didn’t think he was good enough.

Realise, none of us are perfect. We don’t know all the answers. Jesus knows - Follow him.

Ephesians 2:1-8 – Realise everything we can have and know in following Christ.

Who to follow?

Jesus - he said in Matthew 7:24 ‘build you life upon me’
Church leaders – 1 Corinthians 4:14-16; 2 Timothy 3:14

How to follow?

Make sure humility is in your life. It’s not a weakness as some people think. It’s having a confidence in who you are in Christ. Realise what God has done in your life – live from that place.

The Apostle Paul recognised, even through hardship, because of his love for Christ that his ‘burden was light’. Keep your focus on Christ and what you have because of Him.

Jesus is saying to ‘all’, “You’re hired” - nobody is excluded. The choice is ours though when it comes to choosing to be His apprentice.

Tuesday, May 02, 2006

Love is the Greatest

Spoke in church on Sunday...

1 Corinthians 13:1-13

Love God...Love People

Jesus said…Matthew 22:37-39 (37)'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' (38) This is the first and greatest commandment. (39) And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbour as yourself.'

Earth is our practice run for what we will be doing in eternity, which is spending time loving God and loving others.

In Galatians 5:6 it shows us that God values a faith which expresses itself in love - “For when we place our faith in Christ Jesus, it makes no difference to God whether we are circumcised or not circumcised. What is important is faith expressing itself in love.”

We should have a kind of faith that compels us to love people.

Love is a command

Said already (Love the Lord your God…love your neighbour)
Love is doing what God has commanded. Love is not just a feeling, it is much more. Feelings cannot be commanded. We should not just led by our emotions.

Love is a choice

1 Corinthians 14:1Follow the way of love and eagerly desire spiritual gifts, especially the gift of prophecy

We should ‘pursue’ love, ‘go after’ it. Sometimes we give people what they deserve, loving someone is about giving what they need - that is called grace.

Love is a conduct

1 John 3:18Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth

It is not just words but also in deed.

Love is a commitment

1 John 4:16And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him

How do we love people practically?

Get to understand how God loves you.

Memorise scripture about what God says about love.

Start your day with reminder of love. Set the tone of the day. What matters most to God is love.

Practice acting in unselfish ways. Selfishness is the scourge of humankind.

Love is a muscle. Initially it’s hard to love but it gets developed over time. You need to exercise it everyday.

We cannot grow in love on our own. You need to be in the midst of people to grow in love.

From 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 – Six aspects of LOVE.

1. Love is Kind

In 1 Corinthians 13:4 it says love is kind and that kindness is expressed in action.

Four key things we can learn about showing kindness from the Parable of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10.

Begins with our Eyes

We need to start seeing the needs of people around us.

In Luke 10:33 is says When he ‘saw’ him. It begins with our eyes, the way you see the world, the way we are sensitive to the needs of our world. We need to expand our vision and be more observant of the needs around us, the hurting and wounded.

Obstacle to kindness is ‘busyness’ - hurry is the death of kindness. The more we slow down in life, the more sensitive we will be. Ask God to give you spiritual radar, to open the eyes of your heart. Kindness can be learnt, not just born with it.

Use our Ears - Listening is a form of kindness.

We need to sympathise with the other person’s pain. To feel the other person’s emotions, we have to care. In verse 33 it says, “he took pity”. We do this by using our ears and listening to the other person’s pain. The secret to genuine sympathy is being there for the other person.

2 Corinthians 1:4He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.

Every problem we go through is a chance for us to learn to be more sympathetic with others’ pain.

Use what we Have

We need to seize the moment to be kind, don’t delay. In verse 34 it says “he stooped down and kneeled down” he came to the man’s level. He used what he had with him ‘wine & oil’.

a) We must be willing to be interrupted, it happens on their schedule, not ours. Love is often inconvenient.

b) We can’t let excuses get in the way “I’ve got my own problems” “I’ve got important businesses to care for.”

c) We must be willing to take risks. Fear keeps us from being kind. Fear makes us unkind. Perfect love casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).

He spent whatever it took

It costs us something to be kind, our privacy, our time, our resources. What did the good Samaritan gain from it? Nothing materialistically, so why should we be kind?

Isaiah 58:10-11 – (10) Feed the hungry and help those in trouble. Then your light will shine out from the darkness, and the darkness around you will be as bright as day. (11) The LORD will guide you continually, watering your life when you are dry and keeping you healthy, too. You will be like a well-watered garden, like an ever-flowing spring

God says, he guarantees he will meet our needs, when we are kind.

3 Ways to show practical kindness:

Proverbs 12:25 - Kind word – An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up

Proverbs 14:21 - Kind deed - He who despises his neighbour sins, but blessed is he who is kind to the needy

Proverbs 19:17 - Kind gift – He who is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will reward him for what he has done

2. Love does not Envy

ENVY is usually the underlying cause of problems in relationships

Envy is a painful awareness of what another possesses and a desire to have it. It is also resenting God’s goodness to others and ignoring what God has done for us.

Five ways to get rid of envy:

Don’t compare yourself with others
Comparing leads to pride or envy. Each person is unique and each path is different according to God’s plan for their life.

Start enjoying God’s grace to others
In Romans 12:15 it says rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep.

Be grateful for what you have

Philippians 4:11 – Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to get along happily whether I have much or little. (Apostle Paul)

Trust God when life seems unfair

Keep focused on God’s plan for your life

3. Love is Humble

In 1 Corinthians 13:4 it says ‘love does not parade itself, is not puffed up’.

What it is not:

• Humility is not shyness
• Humility is not meekness
• Humility is not low esteem

Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.

Four key things to practise humility:

Give preference to others
Make a pre-determined choice of putting others first. Romans 12:10 - ‘Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honour giving preference to one another.’

We have a choice, to be a person of love is a choice, it’s a decision.

Practise learning from others
Always be open to suggestions and criticisms, heart that is teachable. The day you think you know everything, you stop learning.

Practise admitting when we are wrong
Accept responsibility, take ownership, don’t justify.

Surrender your plans to the Lord
We need to submit to God’s Lordship.

4. Love is being Respectful

1 Corinthians 13:5 “Love does not behave itself rudely”, which means love is being respectful.

Love does not seek its own way, it seeks others. How to show respect:

You stop and you listen
You give your undivided attention to others. This shows that we genuinely care.

Keep your promises
Stay true to what you promised, hold onto what you say, let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’.

Yield ourselves to serve others willingly

2 Corinthians 12:15 (Paul) – So I will very gladly spend for you everything I have and expend myself as well. If I love you more, will you love me less?

5. Love is Patient

In Ephesians 4:26 it says ‘In your anger do not sin’. There is an anger that is not sinful - that you can control. It is righteous indignation. It is different from an anger that is out of control.

How to Break Cycle of Anger and Gain Patience?

Break the pattern of anger
If you keep justifying your behaviour you will keep the habit. You need to confront the problem, if you don’t you will not conquer.

Proverbs 14:29 - A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.

Proverbs 25:28Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control

Guard your relationships
You need to make a heart commitment that no matter what you are angry about – don’t be angry at the person. Make a commitment to value and guard your relationships.

In Proverbs 15:1 it says ‘a soft answer (gentle response), diffuses anger’. What is a gentle response? It is being humble, even when it isn’t your fault.

Release your worries to God
Psalm 37:8 says worries and anxieties cause people to get easily frustrated and angered.
Philippians 4:6 ‘do not be anxious about anything’.

Change your expectations, but don’t lower your standards
Don’t lower your standard but just lower your expectations of people. Philippians 4:8 encourages us to focus on the positive (on strengths) and not the weaknesses.

6. Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs

The ultimate test of love is the test of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is not:

Conditional
It is not based on someone’s response, it is something we do based on faith. If someone hurts us, it’s up to us to take the step to forgive. Forgiveness is unconditional.

Minimising the hurt
It is not minimising the offence and pain. We need to know the difference between being wounded and being wronged. We need to tell the person who has hurt us that we are offended but still offer forgiveness.

Resuming relationship without change
We need to see genuine repentance in the other person and real change of mind and behaviour before we get back to a close relationship again.

Forgetting what happens
God does not forget but chooses not to remember.

My right if it wasn’t me who was hurt

What is Forgiveness?

Relinquish your right to get even
We must surrender the area to the Lord and be able to release – that is real forgiveness. The root of bitterness can very easily spring up. Bitterness poisons you and others. It corrupts the fruit of our lives.

Respond to evil with good
Luke 6:28 “Do good to those who hate you, bless and pray for them.”

You repeat this process as long as necessary
We need to see everything through eyes of grace; following the example of Jesus.